Archive for the ‘Death’ Category


Kim Jong-nam wrote to Kim Jong-un in 2012 asking his half-brother and the recently anointed dictator of North Korea to spare his life and that of his family, the head of South Korea’s National Intelligence Service revealed on Wednesday.

It comes as new pictures of a woman alleged to have been linked to the assassination team that killed the older brother of North Korean dictator Kim Jong-un in Kuala Lumpur have been released by Malaysian media.

Kim Jong-nam, 45, died on Monday after collapsing at Kuala Lumpur International Airport while waiting to board a flight back to Macau, where he was living in exile.

Listen, I’ve never been a big fan or murder and stuff but any assassin who pulls off a stone cold assassination in the middle of an airport while wearing a sweatshirt with “LOL” on the front has my instant respect. It’s like “LOL, I just killed a guy.” That’s just diabolical, man. Plus she looks sort of cute, so she gets extra points there too.

PS- Is it too late for me to start being more empathetic? Probably is, right? Never mind.

PSS- Not many blogs add the tags “Death”, “Humor”, and “Things I Love” onto their stories all at once. That’s what separates me from your average blogger. On a related note, if you’re a regular reader you’re as weird as I am.

So some dude named Leslie Ray “Popeye” Charping passed away recently and obituary-texas-fatherhis daughter was left in charge of writing his obituary. Turns out she wasn’t a fan . . .

“Leslie Ray ‘Popeye’ Charping was born in Galveston on November 20, 1942 and passed away January 30, 2017, which was 29-years longer than expected and much longer than he deserved.”

“At a young age, Leslie quickly became a model example of bad parenting combined with mental illness and a complete commitment to drinking, drugs, womanizing and being generally offensive. Leslie enlisted to serve in the Navy, but not so much in a brave and patriotic way but more as part of a plea deal to escape sentencing on criminal charges.”

“Leslie’s hobbies included being abusive to his family, expediting trips to heaven for the beloved family pets and fishing, which he was less skilled with than the previously mentioned. Leslie’s life served no other obvious purpose, he did not contribute to society or serve his community and he possessed no redeeming qualities besides his quick witted sarcasm which was amusing during his sober days.”

“With Leslie’s passing he will be missed only for what he never did; being a loving husband, father and good friend.”

Leslie’s passing proves that evil does in fact die and hopefully marks a time of healing and safety for all.”

Wow. I’d have no words if I wasn’t a famous quick-witted blogger. That’s just brutal. I take it daughter was left out of the will? And why did she say he lived 29-years longer than expected? Why did she expect him to die in 1988? I’m confused and I need more information, damn it. Anyhoo, ol’ Popeye is accused here of the Triple Crown of asshattery – drinking, drugs, and womanizing. Thank God I can only be accused of three one of those. But honestly, who hasn’t joined the armed forces to escape criminal charges? Don’t most judges sort of give you that as an option? That’s what I thought.

But hey, at least she gave him credit for being amusing during his sober days, so there’s that. Still, a brutal obit. Just brutal.

Note to self: Write own obituary post haste.


Here we have some badass American WWII pilots posing for a casual photo. Wait. Is that a skull? Yes, a Japanese skull.  It was common practice for American soldiers to take body parts as “war souvenirs” and “war trophies”. Teeth and skulls were the most commonly taken, although other body parts were also collected. Yeah, you don’t wanna know. Anyway, look at the youthful, vibrant faces of the All-American boys. Juxtapose that with a dead man’s skull with a helmet on it and you have quite the stunning visual.


Here’s an example of what made her great.


Neoplasms are tumors, but you knew that already.

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Losing Tim

Posted: September 27, 2016 in Death, Inspiration, Life

Today marks 20-years since I lost one of my best friends, Tim.TimBeckMike

I first met him when I was in high school. I played basketball at Paint Valley and he played for Bishop Flaget. Honestly? At first I hated the guy. If you think trash talking began in the 90’s you’d be mistaken. Tim had it down to a fine art in 1974.

It was one of those deals where you wanted to be mad at the him but it was difficult because you were too busy laughing at him.  Bottom line though, we respected each other.

As time went by we found ourselves running into each other more and more. We both worked at a State Park in the summer, doing odd jobs around the lake like mowing, picking up trash and cleaning bathrooms. It gave us a lot of time to talk about life, sports, politics, and most importantly, music.

Beatles music.

Tim is the only person who I ever felt appreciated the Beatles as much as I did. We’d talk for hours about them, arguing about song lyrics or album covers, the relevance of certain songs, who was the most talented Beatle. I was always a Lennon guy, he leaned towards McCartney. We used to argue about which was the greatest Beatle album. He always said it was Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band and I always argued for Abbey Road.  We could never come to an agreement on that one, arguing for hours on end over which was the greatest album.

I remember once when he came up with the idea that he and I should do a radio show. We sat down and had it all planned out. The format, ideas for different shows, everything. It was to be a 3-hour show from 10-1 on Saturday night. We were going to argue about music and different songs, compare cover versions of songs, play Beatles stuff backwards, point out songs that were clearly rip-offs of earlier tunes, we had it all figured out.

Tim knew everyone in town, so it was no problem to arrange a meeting with the head of the local radio station. The only problem was, when we met with the guy he’d already asked around about us. Turns out there was zero chance this guy was going to unleash us on the unsuspecting masses. We even told him we’d make a demo tape for him, but in the end we had no chance.

Seems our reputations had preceded us, damn it.

Tim was honest to a fault. If you didn’t want to hear the truth he wasn’t a guy you wanted to have around. It wasn’t uncommon to run into Tim, and if you hadn’t seen him for awhile he’d say something like, “Jesus Shoe, you’ve gained some weight, right?” or “Man, you’re losing more hair every time I see you.”

You know, pleasantries like that.

Listen, I’m not going to sugarcoat things here. Tim rubbed some people the wrong way. They didn’t appreciate his brand of honest, straightforward candor. As for me, it was exactly what I expected from a friend.

And often times that honesty was exactly what you needed. I remember running into him years ago, after I’d flunked out of college and was working in a local factory. I hated my job, was unhappy with my life, and was generally making everyone around me miserable. Tim took one look at me and said, “You look like hell. What’s wrong?” I told him I was fine but he wasn’t buying it. He said, “No you’re not. You hate yourself because you know you can do better. You need to get out of that fucking factory.”


And I did.

He was exactly right and I knew that, but sometimes it takes a friend to say it out loud.

Over the years we grew even closer as I became a teacher and coach and he worked as the chairman of our local political party as well as holding other jobs in local and state government. My family had been active in local politics my entire life, so it was one more thing we had in common. We did a lot of work together with local government, and because of Tim I got to meet President Bill Clinton and several other important political people.

Bottom line, he was exactly what I needed – honest with me when I needed it most, pointing out my faults without exception, and accepting me for who I was, warts and all. What more could anyone possibly want in a friend?

It was the early summer of 1999 and I was vacationing in the Outer Banks when I got a call from my father. He said he’d heard some bad news regarding Tim and that I might want to give him a call. I did, and after the usual greetings we had the following conversation:

Me: “Hey, I heard you got some serious news yesterday. Are you OK?”

Tim: “Well, only if you consider being told you have 12-weeks to live serious. Otherwise I’m great.”

Good God. Leave it to him to make light of the most morbid situation imaginable. But seriously, you know what he was doing, right? He was worried about my feelings. He’d heard the worry in my voice was trying to make me feel better.

Think about that. That should tell you all you need to know about him.

Over the next few weeks Tim gradually deteriorated despite seeing the experts and doing all the things recommended medically. It was difficult to watch, and he handled it much better than the rest of us, believe me.

Later that summer we talked him into going to the first game ever played in Cleveland’s new football stadium. It was a preseason contest against the Minnesota Vikings, on August 21st. We knew he didn’t have much time left but he sucked it up and agreed to go. He was down to probably 130 pounds, maybe less, and was feeling awful. In fact, he was spitting blood into a paper cup on the way to the game.

I remember he’d gotten a rather severe haircut before we left, and I kept telling him he looked like a Nazi war prisoner. He was so thin and gaunt, and that combined with the haircut made his ears look twice their normal size. At some point one of our wives started calling him “Wingnut” and it stuck for the rest of the weekend.

After checking in at our hotel, Tim and I got a cab to the stadium. For some reason we only had two tickets so the ladies stayed behind. After arriving we realized our seats were in the nosebleed section, w-a-y up top. It immediately became clear that the walk up there wasn’t going to be easy for Tim. He was already out of breath, and we’d barely started. No way he was going to make it.

Finally we saw an elevator, but it had a “V.I.P. Only” sign on it and was being guarded by a humongous man with a shaved head and arms the size of tree trunks. I walked up and explained the circumstances, hoping the guy would see our situation and cut us a break. But, it was the first game ever played there and the guy was under strict orders. He was having none of it.

Suddenly, Tim was there:

Look at me. I can’t walk up there. It’s obvious I’m dying. Help me out.”

At that point the guy stared at Tim for what felt like an eternity, then nodded his head in the direction of the elevator, punched in a code and said, “Get on.”

And we did. Then Tim looked at me, smiled and said, “Might as well use it to my advantage while I can.”

We finally made our way to our seats and sat down. Now, anybody who knew Tim will tell you he was a flirt with the ladies. He definitely had a weakness where beautiful women were concerned. That said, a few minutes later a hot blonde took the seat right next to him. He glanced over, did a double-take, and said, “Well, hell-ooo. How YOU doin’?

I could only stare and shake my head. Here he was, days away from dying, skinny as hell, hair sticking up all over, spitting blood into a paper cup, just so damn sick.

But still flirting with the girls? Hell yes.

On September 26th my wife and I had a political fundraiser at our house for my cousin Mike, a State Senator at the time. I believe it was a Sunday. There were 25-30 people there, and towards the end of the party Tim walked in. The place grew completely quiet, as many of the people there hadn’t seen him in weeks or even months and were stunned at his appearance. I remember our Scottish Terrier, Poe, coming out of the bedroom and looking at Tim. Poe normally stayed in the bedroom when we had large groups of people over, as he wasn’t crazy about big crowds. This time, however, was different. He walked over to the chair that Tim has just sat down in, jumped up on his lap, and began crying and licking his face. For the rest of Tim’s stay Poe wouldn’t leave his side.

Somehow, Poe knew.

The next evening I got the phone call nobody ever wants to get, and I immediately went over to Tim’s house.

I’ll always be thankful for the fact that I was able to spend a few of his last minutes with him.

I’d lost friends before, but they’d all passed suddenly. They never had a chance to think about what was happening, no time to say goodbye, no time for anger or sadness.

Tim had time for all of those things.

The thing is though, over those last 3-months I never saw him angry. I never saw him play the victim, never saw him feel sorry for himself, never saw him scream at God and ask why. Around me at least, he carried a quiet dignity that was remarkable. I respected that so much.

Once, towards the end, I mentioned this to him. I said that if I were in his position I’d be tempted to avenge very person who ever did me wrong, at the very least tell them how I felt before I left this earth, really let them have it.

His response?

“That’s because you’re an asshole. I am too, but something like this makes you see things a little differently. Why waste time on negative stuff like that? Life’s too short.”

Coming from him at that moment, truer words were never spoken.

I’ve not always been successful, but ever since he said that I’ve tried to not waste time using negative energy in my life. It seems a cliché, but you really do have to try and be the best person you can be every day. Like he said, why waste precious time?

He was only 42 when he died, and that was way too soon. And as difficult as it was to watch him suffer, at least he got to say his goodbyes to those he loved, especially his daughter Becky and his son Mike. That’s a kind of blessing, right?

After Tim’s funeral, we went out with some mutual friends and basically reminisced about him. It was an emotional day, and afterwards I just wanted to get home, spend some time alone and relax.

I went down to my basement where I had a bar, my library, and my music collection. I made a drink, sat down on my couch and laid my head back, just trying to unwind after a trying day. When I finally looked up, though, something caught me eye. A CD had fallen from one of my shelves and was on the floor, right in the open, where it had inexplicably landed right in the middle of the room.

The album was Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band. 

It seems that Tim had gotten the last word.

I walked over and picked it up, put the CD in the player, hit play, and listened.

What follows is my take on an old tale I heard years ago when I was a kid. Perhaps it was an Urban Legend, I can’t be sure. I just used the basic crux of the original story, all names, places and details have been created by me. Remember, this is my first attempt at true fiction so cut me a break. Hopefully, if people like this one, there will be more to follow . . .

Bobby Fallow was on the inside, doing time for the incredibly stupid crime of coffin_0robbing a gas station. He was desperately in need of money so he stole a gun from an uncle, put on a dumb George W. Bush mask, and went into a BP station in a town about thirty miles from where he lived. He proceeded to scare the bejesus out of the 50-something woman working the counter and made off with a grand total of $117.74, which he immediately wasted on booze over the next three days.

Bobby’s big mistake was bragging about his haul to his friend Gary, who had the brains of a blobfish. Gary’s father used to put it this way:

“You could put that boy’s brain in a flea’s ass and it would bounce around like a BB in a boxcar.”

So yeah, dumb.

The only guy in town dumber was probably Bobby, since he made the fateful decision to tell Gary he’d knocked over a damn gas station for $117.74.

Long story short, a couple days later the local po-po showed up at Bobby’s door and led him away in handcuffs. A court appointed attorney could do nothing to help, nor did he put forth much of an effort in the process.

So, eight freaking years, maybe five if Bobby could keep his nose clean and not piss off the wrong gang banger.

For Bobby, that was five years too long. He had to get out, man.

Midway through his second year of hell, he was transferred to the prison mortuary. Yeah, guys died in prison, more than you think, especially in a facility as big as the the Louisiana State Penitentiary, also known as the Alcatraz of the South. With well over 6,000 prisoners, the facility was one of the biggest in the United States.

The idea came to Bobby early, probably in his third week working in the prison morgue. As he stood watching a hearse pull away, taking some poor soul’s body to a cemetery off prison grounds, the idea hit him like a jolt of electricity from Gruesome Gertie, the name given by inmates to the old electric chair used to execute death row inmates.

I can get in a coffin and ride right the hell out of here.

Of course, there were some obstacles to overcome, the least of which was having to endure riding for God knows how long with a dead body lying beside him.

Bobby actually tested this once, when he was alone with a freshly filled casket and before the hearse arrived. He opened the lid, took a deep breath, and crawled right in. He then closed the lid, not all the way of course because he was terrified he’d lock himself in.

The good news was he fit.

Yeah, it was creepy as hell, but any fear he had of riding with a dead body for awhile was outweighed by the thought of glorious, mind-blowing freedom.

After lying in his cell night after night, going over the details in his mind, a plan was hatched. Clearly though, he’d need help.

Henry Cartwright was the old man for whom Bobby worked in the morgue, and he was not only a lifer but a snitch. If Old Man Henry got a whiff of the plan it would over before it started.

Bobby did have a friend inside he could trust, however. That man was Benny Bajolière, a dude from Bobby’s hometown of McNary, a little town of 215 people smack-dab in the middle of Louisiana and known primarily for its Lecompte Pie Festival.

Benny worked in the prison library and brought books around to the cells, so Bobby and he always had a few minutes a couple times a week to talk and catch up. Benny was a little older and smoked like a chimney, so between the squeaky wheels and Benny’s hacking cough you could always hear him and his book cart coming.

Benny also had connections within the prison walls and could get Bobby just about anything he wanted, from cigarettes to hooch. Bobby loved the Pruno, a sort of prison wine that would make you forget, if only for a little while, that you were in the most dangerous prison in the United States.

But here was the best part about Benny – he was set for release in a two months.

Over the course of their next few visits, the details were worked out. On the first Friday after Benny’s release date, Bobby would crawl inside the last casket of the day to leave Louisiana State Penitentiary. Benny would be waiting outside, follow the hearse, and after everyone left the burial site he would wait until dark and dig up his friend.

A month before Benny was to be released he was to be transferred to a halfway house, where he would ostensibly be prepared to ease back into society. After that he’d be officially released, and the first Friday thereafter he’d aid Bobby in his escape from the hell that was the Alcatraz of the South.

So, with that Benny Bajolière became Bobby Fallow’s lifeline. All Bobby could hope for was that Mr. Bajolière made good on his end of the deal.

Needless to say Bobby Fallow watched the calendar like a hawk. He knew Benny’s release date was approaching, and he waited patiently to put his plan into action.

On the Friday following Benny’s release date, Bobby prepared for his escape. After finishing his shift in the morgue at 3:00 pm, he went back to his open cell and sat nervously awaiting his move. About three hours later and after putting a previously prepared dummy under his bed sheets, he left his cell and walked down to the morgue. Using a morgue key he’d stolen earlier, he entered.

The place was without windows and was as dark as night, but he’d brought a book of matches to light the way. He found the last coffin in a row of four, knowing it would be the last one leaving, around 6:30 pm. Grabbing the lid handle and blowing out the match, he climbed in.

He’d timed it perfectly. After less than a half hour of lying next to a cold corpse, he felt the coffin being lifted and slid into the back of a hearse. After what seemed like hours but was in reality less than a half hour, Bobby could feel the coffin being removed from the hearse and lowered into the ground.

And then, the terrifying sound of dirt being shoveled onto the casket. After perhaps 20-minutes, it stopped.

Bobby Fallow was now buried alive.

Fighting the urge to scream and attempt to fight his way out, he took short, measured breaths as to conserve as much oxygen as possible. It was hot, cramped and pitch black.

Although Bobby tried his damndest not to think about the dead man lying next to him, it was a nearly impossible task.

He closed his eyes, and for the first time in years, he prayed. He prayed that Benny would be true to his word, and more importantly be on time.

After all, Bobby had calculated there would be enough oxygen in a closed coffin to last about five hours.

All he could do was wait.

And so he waited.

And waited.

How long had it been? Three, four hours? It seemed like an eternity. And then, a revelation – Bobby had a pocket watch. He just had to see how much time he’d been down there, under the ground.

With much difficulty he slid his hand down and gently pulled the watch from his pocket. He pulled it up near his face, but of course could see nothing but the inky blackness he’d been looking at for the past few hours.

For a few minutes he listened, hoping to hear the faint rustle of Benny digging his way down to rescue him. Oh, how they’d laugh and tell the story later, how Bobby was in such a panic-stricken state until Benny showed up as promised.

Alas, nothing. It was as still as death.

It was then Bobby remembered the matches. He reached down again, this time into his shirt pocket. He knew he couldn’t have a lit match in a closed casket very long because he was low on oxygen, but he just had to see the time. He just had to, as a form of reassurance as much as anything. Hell, he probably hadn’t been down there nearly as long as he thought he had.

Everything was going to be OK.

Still, to be certain he had to take one quick look.

He lit the match and took a quick glance at his watch.

Only 8:30.

He’d only been in the coffin for two hours. Just two measly hours. There was plenty of time, and help was most certainly on the way.

Breathing a sigh of relief, he started to blow out the match. But then, something compelled him to look to his side, into the face of the dead man beside him.

And there, staring back, was the face of Benny Bajolière.

So I watched the documentary “15 Septembers Later” on the History Channel 9_11_signlast night, and there were several bits of information I’d missed over the years. A lot of new information has been released over the past 5-years or so, and some of it is pretty incredible. Maybe you’ve already heard this before, maybe you haven’t. That said, below are the 9 things that I did not know:

  • Sadly, because authorities at the World Trade Centers didn’t want anyone getting up there to throw things off, in particular themselves, the doors to the roofs of the towers were chained shut. At least one helicopter with rescue personnel and equipment was hovering there, waiting for people to appear so they could save them.
  • The FFA National Operations Manager, Ben Sliney, grounded 5000 planes that day without asking anybody at the White House or anybody in the government, a great decision because we had no idea how many terrorists were out there on planes, waiting to take over. And oh, by the way? It was his first day on the job.
  • Captain William Hutchinson was the last person that saw Flight 93 that day. He was a fighter pilot and he was dispatched to chase the airliner. He made visual contact but, running out of fuel, he had to turn back. As he turned to leave he watched it began its nosedive.
  • Other fighter jets were sent into the air with orders to bring down any airliner that didn’t respond to radio contact. However, none of the jets had weapons aboard. They weren’t seen as needed over 2001 American soil. So, the pilots were told to bring the airliners down without being told exactly how. The pilots understood they were to ram the planes, and were prepared to do so. One female pilot explained that she’d planned to hit the passenger plane in the tail, and if she wasn’t killed on impact she’d then eject.
  • Only 20 people survived the collapse of the towers, while 2763 died. That’s a .007% survival rate. Of those survivors, 12 crawled to safety and 4 were rescued later.
  • Two Marines showed up at Ground Zero the day after the collapse and were told the debris pile was too dangerous and that nobody was allowed on it. Ignoring orders, they went in, calling out for survivors. They discovered 2-people and rescued them. One of the Marines, Jason Thomas, left immediately afterwards and told nobody, not even his immediate family, that he was involved. Just recently, he came forward.
  • Finance firm Cantor Fitzgerald lost the most people of any company that day, losing 658 of their 969 employees. Although 0nly 32% of their people lived, the company survived and is thriving today.
  • In the 9/11 Commission’s lengthy report, 28-pages were originally missing. Years later when they were finally released, officials stated they were withheld because they were “embarrassing to the Saudis”. We know that 15 of the 19 hijackers were from Saudi Arabia, and evidence pointed to Saudi nationals funding the plan. In addition, information on the hijackers behavior and whereabouts in the months prior to 9/11 has never been released. We only know that some of them trained in Florida. We don’t know who paid their bills or anything. They spoke poor English and had never been to the United States. How did they pull off such a sophisticated attack?
  • It is estimated that 200-people chose to jump that day, rather than face death in the flames of the building. One firefighter, Danny Suhr, was killed when a jumper landed on him after “falling like a torpedo” from the sky, breaking his neck. The priest who gave him last rites was later killed by falling debris.

Note: When I was in Florida recently I stayed in Venice, near where some of the hijackers trained to fly. I read an article in the paper that told the story of a local sheriff at the time. He was called to a hotel because a little dog had bitten a man. Upon arrival, the owner of the dog, a woman, said her dog had never bitten anyone before and she was scared he’d be taken from her. The sheriff then went to the man’s apartment to check on him. Although he’d called and had his hand wrapped in a towel, he told the sheriff he didn’t want to press charges. That man was later found out to be one of the hijackers. Upon hearing this, the sheriff remembered he’d looked past the man into the apartment that day to see four other men sitting at a table, looking at blueprints. The sheriff thought nothing of it, thinking they were engineers or something. Chilling. On a related note, dogs know, don’t they?

Ten years ago, on September 8th, I lost the best little friend I’d ever had.

I first laid eyes on Delaney in early December of 2000. She was a 4-year old rescue and my wife and I had to go pick her up from the Dayton Scottish Terrier Club of America. She was unrecognizable as a Scottie. Her hair was long and unkempt, totally full of knots. When we reached down to pet her she would immediately hit the floor, going flat on her stomach. She just assumed she was going to be hit.

Del had been terribly abused by her owners. She trusted nobody, and would growl and shy away from anyone who tried to touch her. It would be over a year before she would even lick your hand. She had no idea how to love or show compassion. When we brought her home to meet her new brother Poe, she growled and nipped at him, generally making his life miserable for several months.

Over time, Del learned that we weren’t going to hurt her. She slowly and gradually warmed up to us, but it seemed to take forever. When she finally opened up to us, her incredible personality was revealed. She was a feisty, tough, animated, energetic little girl, albeit one with a giant chip on her shoulder. She had the most amazing eyes and expressions that just spoke to you. When she wanted something, she never hesitated to let you know with a yelp and a nudge of her nose. In fact, she came quite proficient at using that nose as a battering ram. If a door was left even slightly ajar, you could soon expect Del to come barging in to see what you were up to. To make matters worse, she taught her brother the same trick.

Del was a fighter. She didn’t back down from anything, whether it be a bigger delsleep11dog or a terrible disease. Ten years ago we took her in for a vet appointment and found that she had an abdominal mass inside of her. We’d had no idea. She’d been at the beach all summer and hadn’t shown a bit of discomfort. Her spleen had to be taken out, but she was as good as new in a month or so.

Then, in the fall of ’07 Del fell ill again. This time it was cancer, and she had to have a 9-pound tumor removed from her little 25-pound body. After surgery, pancreatitis set in and it was really bad. She was at MedVet for several days, and at one point the doctor told us that we shouldn’t hold out much hope, that Del didn’t have much of a chance, probably wouldn’t make it through the night. She could barely hold her little head up, and we basically said our goodbyes.

But as I was leaving a young vet called me aside and whispered this:

“Don’t give up. She’s a hundred times stronger than you or me. I can tell.”

And he was right.

The next morning we called expecting the worst, but incredibly we were told she was sitting up. Stunned, we went to see her and were thrilled to see she was much better. The doctors were shocked and Del was quite the little celebrity among the vets and staff at MedVet. Everyone was just amazed that she’d fought through it and came out alive. Del was a little miracle dog. She came home a few days later and just kept recovering until she seemed as good as new.

Unfortunately, the cancer came back and this time it had spread to her bladder. In January 2008 we were told that Delaney had 4-months to live. You would never had known it as she was as perky and vibrant as ever, hopping around, standing on her back legs asking for treats, just generally being Del. The 4-months passed and she was still going strong. Once again Del was beating the odds. Then, in late August, she started showing signs that things weren’t right. She started to decline quickly, eventually stopped eating and our local vet told us that it was time.

We lost Delaney on September 8th, 2008. She was nearly 12-years old, and I held her as she passed. She was wrapped in an old robe of mine that she loved so much. You know, I learned more from her than anyone can imagine. Her determination, resiliency, and lust for life were inspiring. Once she learned that we loved her, her loyalty, compassion, boundless energy, and sheer will-power made her a remarkable pet and the perfect companion.

She’s been gone for 10-years now, but she will never, ever be forgotten.

I loved that little dog so much.

David Huddleston, a noted character actor who was most famously known david-huddleston-deadfor the titular role in “The Big Lebowski” died Tuesday at 85. His wife, Sarah Koeppe, told the Los Angeles Times that he died of heart and kidney disease in Santa Fe, N.M.

Huddleston’s character in the 1998 “The Big Lebowski” epitomized the types of characters he was known for — big dons or capos and tempestuous men. Although he is in only a few scenes in the film, he crosses paths with Jeff Bridges’ Lebowski character, aka “The Dude,” after a group of gang members attack “The Dude” mistaking him for Huddleston’s millionaire Lebowski. Though the film was not a hit when it first premiered, it has since become a huge cult sensation with a devoted fan base.

Well, hell. I’m just devastated over here. The guy who played Big Lebowski is dead? Say it ain’t so. Crushing news. That’s one of my favorite movies ever, period. Who’s next, John Goodman? Steve Buscemi? For the love of God, Jeff Bridges?

Now if you’ll excuse me I need a minute.

The body of a tourist has been recovered from a ravine after he fell while picuvisiting the ancient site of Machu Picchu in the Peruvian Andes.

Oliver Park, 51, ignored safety signs and warnings from wardens and went into a restricted area close to the edge of a cliff on Wednesday, officials say.

They say he tried to pose for a photograph of himself leaping as if in flight but lost his footing.

Rescuers found the body on Thursday and took it to a local police station. Police said his body would be taken to a morgue in the city of Cusco.

Does it make me a bad person that I laughed out loud when I read the line “He tried to pose for a photograph of himself leaping as if in flight but lost his footing.” Good God, that’s comedy gold right there. See, he was posing as if in flight and he was soon actually in flight. Isn’t that like irony or something?

Anywho, listen to the wardens, kids.

Note: It took him a day to find his body? Deep ravine, dude.

Note 2: They took the body to CostCo? That’s weird. Oh, Cusco. Never mind.

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SALUDA, S.C.—One man’s funeral is the talk of the town in Saluda, as 90-year-old Lonnie Holloway was buried in the front seat of his car along with his most prized possessions.

“I’ve been in the wrecker business 30 years and this is the first time we ever buried anybody in their car,” said Rodney Minick of Saluda Body Shop.

While some family members say they did the burial because they knew it was Mr. Holloway’s last wish, others say they disagreed but went along because they knew it’s what he wanted.

“I don’t like it but he told me a long time ago. He said ‘Sallie Mae, I’m going to be buried in my car.’ I said ‘Holloway, don’t make me ashamed’ and he said ‘If that’s going to make you ashamed, you’re going to have to be ashamed.’ I hope he made it,” said Lonnie’s sister Sallie Harris.

After the car was put in the ground, it was covered with a concrete slab to keep the the guns and the car from being stolen.

So ol’ Lonnie Holloway requested to be buried in his beloved 1973 Pontiac Catalina along with his guns, and I’ll be damned if his wife didn’t go through with it. Be honest, how many of you have wives that would fight you on this? Or maybe agree, then after you die just bury you the old-fashioned way? Not Mrs. Holloway, man. True to Lonnie’s request all the way. And hey, Sallie Harris, you don’t have to worry because Lonnie made it all right. And he made it in style, sitting behind the wheel of a sweet ’73 Pontiac Catalina.

Note I – Hey, Rodney Minick of Saluda Body Shop, there’s a reason you haven’t buried anyone in their car before, and that’s because you’re in the wrecker business. Der.

Note II – Good call on the concrete slab. Better safe than sorry.

Note III – I just noticed this story is 7-years old. Looks like I’m on top of things like always.

Full disclosure: I wasn’t close to dying this morning, but I thought I was. I just wanted to draw you in with a tantalizing title, and if you’re reading this it apparently worked. Here’s how it all went down . . .

It was a normal Friday morning like most others. Rise at 6:00 AM, shake out the cobwebs, shower, turn on the news, check my email, blah-blah-blah. About 7:20 AM I grabbed my backpack and headed out the door to my car. I was opening my car door when it happened . . .

My head suddenly became a buzzing, reverberating, electrified, spinning dervish of confusion. My teeth were rattling, my ears were tingling, my tongue felt like a woodpecker was going at it, my lips felt like I’d chewed through a live wire, and my entire mouth felt as if it was inhabited by a gang of angry bumblebees. In addition, I’m pretty sure my eyes popped out of my head for a second like one of those cartoon characters who’d been electrocuted. There was also a strange humming sound that seemed to be emanating from my very core.

Horrifying thoughts raced through my quivering cranium. Had I been tazed? Had an aneurysm popped in my brain? Had I inadvertently stepped on a downed electric wire? For the love of God, was I having a stroke? My mind was reeling. Looking around wildly, I sort of staggered/dropped into my car seat, looking for my cell phone to dial 911. Where the hell was it?

Suddenly I remembered – I’d stuck it in my mouth so I’d have a free hand to open the car door.

And the ringer was off.

And it was on vibrate.

And someone was calling me.

Good Lord.

On a positive note, I’m pretty sure I’m growing hair again.

[New York Post]: A mysterious planet that wiped out life on Earth millions of years ago could do dieit again, according to a top space scientist. And, some believe the apocalyptic event could happen as early as this month.

Planet Nine — a new planet discovered at the edge of the solar system in January — has triggered comet showers that could bomb the Earth’s surface, killing all life, says Daniel Whitmire, of the University of Louisiana. Fossil evidence has suggested most life on Earth is mysteriously wiped out every 26 million to 27 million years. Whitmire claims Planet Nine’s passage through a rock-laden area called the Kuiper Belt is responsible for the “extinction events” of past earth and it may be ready to happen again.

Boy, this Daniel Whitmire’s a piece of work, huh? Just casually dropping the news that we’re all going to be dead before May. Couldn’t the dude hold a press conference, maybe inform the world leaders or something? Anywho, no more worrying about those bills, kids. Screw ’em. And that person you’ve always wanted to kill? Today’s your lucky day.

See ya on the other side!

PS – Then again, he is a scientist in Louisiana. I think you can be a scientist down there with an 8th grade education. Bro probably works out of the back of his pickup with some beakers, a Mattel microscope and a bunsen burner. Maybe we’re good.

This map is resized to reflect the mortality rate of children under 5-years old.


I know, greatest blog title ever, amirite? You’re welcome.1

Anywho, this is something that’s been on my mind lately so I thought it was time to unleash.  I do understand folks have different opinions on these types of things, so apologies in advance to those about to be offended.

Alrighty then. Let’s take a deep breath and begin with my list of dos and don’ts of dying . . .

The Don’ts

For the love of all that is holy, if I die in a fiery car crash do not put up one of those roadside memorials at the scene of my demise. For the life of me I don’t understand or comprehend why people do this. Why would I want flowers, signs, notes, teddy bears and God-knows-what-else at the location where my head went through the windshield or steering column went through my oral cavity? Thanks but no thanks.

Do not dedicate a sporting event to me or say that you won a game for me. Doesn’t it sort of cheapen a life when we use it as inspiration to win a basketball game? Good Lord. And don’t point to the sky in honor of me after a big touchdown run or game-winning shot either. Besides, you might be pointing in the wrong direction. The same goes for black armbands or buttons with my picture on there. On the other hand, a really cool t-shirt might be nice. Note to self: Design “Shoe Death Party” t-shirts post haste.

Do not get on my Facebook page and talk to me as if I’m still here. That’s just creepy. Telling a funny or inspirational story (if there is such a thing) about me is fine, but please, no “Dave, a horsefly landed on my nose today and I knew it was you paying me a visit” or some such nonsense like that. I mean, really? On the other hand, depending on the person that horsefly on the nose might just be me after all.

Do not go overboard with the sympathy thing. There’s nothing worse than somebody who barely knew the deceased standing there wailing as if they were best friends.

Do not show up at my funeral if you didn’t like me when I was alive and kickin’. I shall have a list of my enemies posted at the door with strict instructions for my friend Tom to beat the crap out of you if you do. And he will do it.

The Dos

Do let me go. If I’m on my death bed with no hope of making it, for God’s sake let me go. Pull the damn plug as they say. I’m a firm believer in assisted suicide in these cases. Just let everyone say their goodbyes, whisper to me how awesome I was in life, pat me on the head, go have an adult beverage and tell funny stories about all the stupid things I did in my life. It saves money, time and grief for all involved, most importantly me.

Do cremate me, please. I’ve never been comfortable (but who really is?) with the ritual of lining up to view the dead body. Despite what people always say, the deceased never looks good. They look dead. And tell the truth. Aren’t you always slightly afraid the person’s going to open their eyes and look right at you? If you didn’t before you will now. Anyway, just put a really flattering photo of me smiling and looking good from back in my heyday. Wait. Did I ever have a heyday? Never mind. Then just take my ash-filled urn with you to all the big parties or bars you go to, sit me on the middle of the table, and clink your bottle on me from time-to-time. Just don’t get drunk and leave me at the bar. I’d hate to end up in the dumpster behind Jerry’s West.

Do play good music at my memorial (Is memorial the right word? It won’t be a viewing because there’ll be nothing to view. A wake? The mind reels). The Beatles, R.E.M., The Avetts, Zevon, a little Alice Cooper, The Eels, you know the drill. No “church music” if you will. No offense, folks, but everyone will be a little down anyway, so “Bringing in the Sheaves” ain’t gonna help. Besides, I don’t know what a sheave is so I don’t want it brought in. Alice’s “Muscle of Love” on the other hand . . .

Do let my friends stand up and say a few words about me. I’m talking about the friends who have loved me unconditionally, even when I’ve been an uncaring ass who has made some incredibly stupid life decisions, usually involving women. You know who you are, and I know you’ll speak the truth. More importantly, you’ll know what to leave out.

Finally, and I really have to be careful here, it bothers me when I go to a funeral and the preacher turns it into a sermon and even an alter call. I have a couple problems with this. Number one, there are many people there who aren’t normally a part of the congregation, so it’s sort of a captive audience if you will. It seems like the preacher wants to take advantage of this to do his thing. Well, not everybody attending wants to hear it. They didn’t come to hear you preach. They want to hear about the person who died. Is that too much to ask?

Secondly, it seems to me to be a sort of emotional blackmail to ask people, when they are at their lowest point emotionally, to make a major life decision regarding something as important as religion. Shouldn’t decisions like that should be made by those whose heads are level and minds are clear, and not in such a vulnerable state of grief?

It seems to me the proper thing to do would be to talk about the deceased, tell some stories about his life and what made him or her special. That’s what I want to hear. Then, maybe inform folks that there will be a religious service following if they want to stick around? Just throwin’ it out there.

I guess an exception to this would be when it’s a specific request of the deceased, but even then I think it’s a bad idea.

I really can’t think of a way to wrap this up, other than to say I hope to hell it won’t be relevant for a long time. It reminds me of that George Carlin quote when he was on Carson back in the day. George was 39 at the time and Johnny asked him what he wanted people to be saying about him in a hundred years. Carlin’s answer?

“I want them to say ‘That man is 139-years old.’”

My feelings exactly.

If I do go, though, I hope it’s quick, maybe like one of my favorite poets, Dylan Thomas. His last words:

“I’ve had 18 straight whiskies……I think that’s the record.”

That would be my second favorite way to go.

PS – disclaimer

It all began at a stoplight. I glanced out my car window, into the graveyard, and saw the headstone.

Not many people know this, but I enjoy cemeteries. I love walking around and reading the headstones and the things people have engraved on them. Whether the deceased had chosen the words themselves or some relative did it for them is really irrelevant, it just fascinates me endlessly to read what people want to put in words over a place where a dead body is buried.

Man, that was a weird sentence.

Anyway, when I’m out of town and a graveyard is nearby I usually try to find the time to take a leisurely stroll through it, just checking out the headstones. You can really find some interesting stuff, trust me. So today when I saw the headstone, I just had to take a look. And boy, did I hit the jackpot. I became so fascinated by what I found that I actually did some research on the man on the headstone, and I gotta say I wish I’d known Mr. Dominick A. Lockwood.

But first things first. Here’s what originally caught my eye:


Awesome, amirite? Great pose. But what did it mean? It became immediately obvious that Dominick had a great sense of humor, plus I loved the quote at the bottom:


When the illusion of the body disappears, love, the true reality of being, remains.”

I couldn’t find this quote attributed to anybody, but it’s great stuff nonetheless.

And now for the sides of the headstone. Check these out:

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Love these. His children (yes, children) with him on one side, the peace sign on the other. Spectacular.

But who was this guy? I just had to find out.

I became so intrigued with Dominick and his headstone I began digging a little deeper (not literally, so chillax), and boy did he not disappoint. He was everything I imagined, and some things I could never have imagined. Let’s just say he was quite the character. Among the revelations:

  • He was an eccentric, lovable multi-millionaire attorney and real estate magnate in The Poconos (where I was visiting and saw the headstone) who hung out in both the opera and dive bars.
  • He kept a Christmas tree on top of his car until Easter, telling friends it made the vehicle easier to find in a crowded parking lot.
  • He wore his trademark bow tie even during a hunting trip, explaining that the deer would find him more approachable than a guy with a flannel shirt and gun.
  • He sported two wristwatches — just in case he wanted to know what time it was in Germany or Switzerland.
  • He once took out a newspaper ad to announce that he was not running for a political office.
  • He’d call a friend every day at 6:00 AM and announce, “It’s going to be a beautiful day” even during blizzards and thunderstorms.
  • He shopped for unusual Christmas presents for friends and strangers at flea markets and wrapped gifts in paper shopping bags or newspapers — with a bow.
  • He fathered three children after the age of 58.
  • He only ate every other day.
  • He rode his bicycle to work in a Brooks Brothers suit and saddle shoes, his wild hair flapping in the wind.
  • When the neighborhood Elementary School was about to close in the mid-1990s, he offered to buy the school so it would stay open.
  • He would consummate business deals with merely a handshake, old-school style.
  • He would stop on the street and randomly do what he called “The Warrior” the yoga pose that is on his headstone.
  • He said, “You should speak to everyone you see. Especially the women.”

Dominick died in 2002 when was struck by a truck — driven by a man visiting town to testify as a traffic accident reconstructionist. It happened in the middle of Main Street at the beginning of the workday. He was three days shy of his 76th birthday.

Ironically, in 1971, his father also was killed walking across a Pennsylvania street, at age 72.

It’s weird how you can stumble upon a headstone, become intrigued by it, do a little research and really feel as if you know a guy, you know? Even 11-years after his death, Dominick is having a positive impact on complete strangers.

I came across one last bit of information as well. I found that after his death, a woman left a letter on his grave. She wrote that many years ago she had contemplated suicide, but a daily smile from Lockwood let her know that at least one person cared about her.

When you are that lonely, a smile can save your life,” she wrote. “And it did save mine.”

I guess we never know how big of an effect our actions can have on others, you know? And can’t we all learn a little from Dominick A. Lockwood?

November 22nd, 1963

Posted: November 22, 2015 in Death, Life
JFK sailing off the Massachussetts coast.

JFK sailing off the Massachusetts coast.

It was 1963, and I was in second grade. Coming from a strongly Democratic family, we’d gone door-to-door in 1960 in support of John F. Kennedy, the charismatic young Senator from Massachusetts who went on to be elected President of the United States in 1960. As young as I was, I still remember watching him on television and feeling that he was so much different than the other politicians. Keep in mind I was, because of my family, pretty aware of the political landscape in our country. Hell, I can remember the Kennedy-Nixon debates of 1960 and I was only 4-years old.

Anyway, I can vividly recall that Friday in November, 1963 when a knock  came on the door of my classroom in Twin Elementary in Bourneville.  I was in row 2, seat 2. My teacher, Mrs. Hughes,  walked to the door and listened for a few seconds. For some reason, the classroom became completely quiet. Somehow we sensed something in the air. I distinctly remember Mrs. Hughes sort of toppling a bit and leaning against the door jamb upon receiving the news. Then she turned, deathly white, and walked to the front of the room . . .

Kids, I have terrible news. Our president has been assassinated.”

I remember my friend Jeff, who was sitting in front of me, turning around and asking me what that meant. I have no idea how I knew for sure, but I told him that somebody had killed John F. Kennedy, our president. Our president was dead.  I don’t remember the rest of the school day, but I do remember going home after school and being surprised that my dad was home, sitting on the couch watching the television. I also remember that for the first time in my life, I saw tears in my father’s eyes.

Two days later was a Sunday, and after church Dad and I drove to Columbus to get lunch for the family. This sounds incredible today, but believe it or not the closest McDonald’s was at what is now the Southland Mall. Anyway, I remember standing in line waiting for our food, outside. Inside there was a small black and 1white television that had been set up so people could watch the JFK coverage. As I recall they were cutting back and forth to the Dallas Courthouse. Soon, Lee Harvey Oswald was shown being escorted through the basement of the Dallas Police Station. As I watched, Jack Ruby stepped up and shot him in the stomach. Dad tried to cover my eyes but I’d seen it all. I remember some people in line cheered, but dad told me later in the car that it wasn’t a good thing, that it was another murder and perhaps we’d never know what really happened now. He couldn’t have been more right. We still don’t know for sure.

I’ll never forget the funeral procession, how brave and strong Jackie Kennedy seemed to me, and young John John saluting his father’s coffin. It was such a sad, sad time. There was just a dark cloud cast over everything.

And even at so young an age, I sensed the world was different after those few days. A certain innocence had been lost, and lost forever.


A “twerk-off” dance contest preceded a woman jumping from an EDM party cruise-shipcruise ship during the 2015 Mad Descent Boat Party late Thursday off the coast of Cuba.

Speaking exclusively with NBC 6, Graham Hansen, who knows the woman, says he spoke with a mutual friend of theirs who was also on board that cruise.

“She and some other girl who was calling herself the twerk queen were having a twerk-off, ” Hansen told NBC 6 via phone. “Twerk queen started twerking on her (the missing woman’s) boyfriend, and it caused some sort of issue between the two of them.”

The woman reportedly jumped from the ship not long after the dance contest escalated. Hansen says their mutual friend on board the ship is “completely and totally mortified.”

Listen, if anything can make you want to kill your yourself it’s losing a twerk-off, amirite? Hey, losing a loved one or finding out you have an incurable disease is one thing, but getting beaten by the Twerk Queen would be enough to send anybody over the edge. Or ledge in the case. I hate myself right now.

And is it me or is the cruise name “Mad Descent” incredibly fitting here? And yes, I’d say “completely and totally mortified” is a fitting reaction. “Somewhat and just a tad mortified” just wouldn’t have seemed right, ya know?

Anyway, lesson learned. Don’t challenge the Twerk Queen, man. Bad things will happen.

I’ve always been an animal guy and have had the pleasure of having many pets over the years, but none was more famous than the legendary Elmo the Gerbil.*

*Until Sparky of course. Sparky is world famous.

Anyway, Elmo was cool. He’d sit on my shoulder or in my shirt pocket when I went out in Columbus, go shopping with me, just generally hang out and be my buddy. He never bitched or complained, never called me selfish or self-centered, never got upset at me for being impatient. We loved each other unconditionally.

Hell, once he got sick and I took him to the vet. Keep in mind he only cost $3.99 to begin with. As my buddy J.R. told me at the time, “Shoe, that’s like taking a disposable lighter in for repairs.” True enough, but a disposable lighter never snuggled up on my chest at night or helped me meet girls in bars. Trust me when I say Elmo was one helluva wingman.

I basically let Elmo have the run of the house, I just had to warn visitors, as I didn’t want him to get stepped on. That would have been tragic. Also, girls tended to scream when he darted up their leg in search of a kiss on the ol’ snout.

Elmo had some weird tendencies bordering on, well, insanity. OK, I think he might have been batshit crazy. One night I couldn’t find him, became worried, and went on a search.  I found him in a closet, hanging from a clothes hanger by his back feet, upside down. How he got there I’ll never know.

Another night I came home and found him lying on my recliner, looking sort of bloated. I looked around and discovered the problem. I’d left some food out in the kitchen and he’d eaten half a piece of a deluxe pizza with extra cheese, including hot peppers. Hey, that doesn’t sound like much to you and I, but that’s a lot of food when you only weigh 5-ounces.

On another occasion I’d read where gerbils liked to tunnel in the ground, so I removed the woodshavings from his cage (which he rarely used) and replaced it with some dirt. A few hours later I was walking by, looked down, and saw that Elmo had buried himself up to his chin. There he lay, just watching me walk by. Like I said, nuts.

Once I bought him one of those clear plastic balls you could put him in to run around and get exercise. All was well until he rolled into the kitchen and down the basement stairs. I thought he was dead but he shook it off like a boss.

Dude was a genuine hardo.

Alas, as was bound to happen, Elmo died. I found him when I came home late one night. He was lying on my pillow as if he’d died in his sleep. He’d never shown any signs of illness so I was stunned. Was I sad? Hell yeah. Did I cry over a gerbil? Maybe. That said, I knew I couldn’t just bury Elmo in the backyard or toss him in the trash. Elmo deserved more. Much more. And so it began . . .

Elmo had passed on a Monday so the Funeral/Wake/Party was scheduled for the following Saturday. After gently putting him in a Stroh’s beer can (took the top off and fashioned a lid with duct tape) and depositing him in my freezer, I sent out a boatload of Death Notices/Funeral Announcements/Party Invitations. You have to remember that Elmo had more friends than I did, and by a considerable margin. He could have run for local office and won by a landslide. You know, as long as there was no psychological evaluation and stuff. In addition, Elmo had no enemies. Well, other than my neighbor’s cat. He hated that damn cat. But I digress. I then called my closest friends to make the plans. It was to be a wake, followed by the burial, followed by the party. If you’re shaking your head, you didn’t know Elmo. If you knew him, you’re nodding approvingly.

Finally the day arrived, and everything was ready. Elmo lay majestically on my mantle in a tiny, beautiful mahogany coffin constructed by my cousin Mike. The gerbil casket (possibly the only one of its kind in recorded history) was satin-lined and held together by little gold nails. When I first saw it I got misty-eyed. I also must add that Mike showed up in a coat and tails for the event. As much pomp and ceremony as possible was in order and he knew it. I never loved my cousin more than on that day.

Positioned around Elmo were probably 30 or more beautiful flower arrangements with various notes from mourners. I remember one in particular that read, “As I took my morning walk through the woods, I fully realized just how much I’ll miss that little rodent. My heart goes out to you.” And believe me when I say that person wasn’t kidding.

After the viewing and some cocktails it was time for the burial. Cousin Mike led the procession in his coattails, holding a bible although for the life of me I can’t remember why. It just seemed to be the thing to do. I followed him, carrying the casket in one hand and a beer in the other. Behind me followed about 60 people walking in pairs, bearing lighted candles. Keep in mind this was all happening in my front yard, and I swear cars stopped in the road as a show of respect. Or curiosity. Or amazement. Or disgust. We can’t be certain.

After we got to the gravesite, everyone circled around the little hole we’d dug for Elmo. I gently laid his casket down amid sniffles from the crowd. At that point my friend Tom stepped forward for the eulogy. It was based, fittingly, on Ted Kennedy’s eulogy at Bobby’s funeral. After all, both Elmo and Bobby were compassionate, groundbreaking dreamers, and heroes to many. You could hear a gerbil hair drop as Tom spoke. He concluded with these moving words:

Those of us who loved Elmo, and who take him to his rest today, pray that what he was to us and what he wished for others will someday come to pass for all the world.”

And later:

As he said many times, in many parts of this state, to those he touched and who sought to touch him . . . ‘eek eek.’”

Touching, I tell you. Just moving as hell. At that point I tossed some dirt on the casket, which basically finished the burial process. Hey, he was a gerbil after all. It didn’t take a whole lotta dirt.

Then everyone blew out their candles and headed back into the house. I, though, stayed for a few minutes and said my last goodbye. I then went inside and partied the night away with Elmo’s closest friends. Stories were told, anecdotes related, and everyone discussed what we’d learned from Elmo. Other than always remembering to check where he was before we sat down, turns out we hadn’t learned much. Still, if that cat would have wandered over we would have ripped it to shreds, just for Elmo. We loved him that much.

I never owned another gerbil, because quite frankly none could ever reach the bar Elmo had set. The fact that said bar was about 3 ½ inches high is irrelevant. His greatness could never be matched.

May his legend live on.                           

At least Scott raised a son with a sense of humor, amirite?



Yeah, yeah, we all know Paul McCartney isn’t dead. If he did indeed die back in the late 60’s, his replacement has sure made some damn good music for the past 40+ years. Band on the Run, Jet, Maybe I’m Amazed, and Live and Let Die were pretty good songs if written by some replacement. Still, something was going on back then, because the lads left way too many clues for it to be a coincidence. Was it a prank? Were The Beatles just messin’ with us? Who knows, but one thing’s for sure – it’s fun looking at the clues they left.

For those out of the know, it all started back on October 12th, 1969 when some shady character called a Detroit radio station (WKNR-FM on your dial!) and told disc jockey Russ Gibb about the rumour and its clues. Gibb and other callers then discussed the rumor on the air for the next hour. Thus, the firestorm had begun. Soon people were discovering clues everywhere, on album covers, in song lyrics, hell, even when you played certain Beatles songs backwards. The clues dated back to Sgt. Pepper’s in 1967.

Holy shit man, was Paul really dead?

As the story goes, Paul had gotten into a huge argument during a recording session, rushed off and was killed in a horrific traffic accident. He was then replaced by the winner of the Paul McCartney look-alike contest, the contest that was held with no winner ever being announced. I know, pretty preposterous and obviously untrue. But still, a bazillion and three clues were left, some more credible than others, but all incredibly compelling. Let’s discuss some of my favorites . . .

“Turn me on Dead Man”

This one was a d-o-o-o-z-y (anyone get the Groundhog Day movie reference? Sigh). Here’s the deal. If you put the song “Revolution #9” on the turntable (it’s on the White Album by the way) and turn it backwards slowly you hear “Turn me on dead man” over and over. Now, that song was freaky anyway, but listening to it backwards in the middle of the night was downright chilling.

“Paul is dead, man. Miss him. Miss him.”

Also from The White Album. At the end of the song “I’m So Tired” and before the beginning of “Blackbird” there is some mumbling. When played backwards you can hear the words, “Paul is dead, man. Miss him. Miss him.” Again, I have the audio right here for y’all, more proof that I’m not your average run-of-the-mill blogger. Enjoy.

“I buried Paul.”

This is a good one. If you listen to “Strawberry Fields Forever,” at the end of the song there’s a fade-out followed by a fade-in of gibberish and noises. Then, right before the second fade-out you hear the words, “I buried Paul.” John said later he was saying “cranberry sauce” but I never bought that. Of course, at another time he said he was saying “I’m very bored” so John was either forgetful, messing with us, or high (definite possibility). Click here and you be the judge. It begins at the :13 second mark.

There are numerous other lyrics people point to when declaring that The Beatles were trying to tell us something…

“He blew his mind out in a car, he didn’t notice that the lights had changed.”

These are lyrics from “A Day in the Life,” on 1967’s “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band” album, and of course they fit right in with the conspiracy theorists macabre conjectures.

“You were in a car crash, and you lost your hair.”

From Ringo’s “Don’t Pass Me By,” which was on 1968’s White Album. Sure are a lot of references to car wrecks, huh?

“Yes, he’s dead” and “We loved you yeah, yeah, yeah.”  

If you listen to “All You Need is Love” closely, which you will in a second, you’ll hear “Yes he’s dead” and shortly thereafter the words “We loved you yeah, yeah, yeah.” I’ll give you the link shortly.

“Will Paul be back as Superman?”

At the very end of the “Sgt. Pepper’s” album you hear some weird voices with unintelligible words. When played backwards you can hear “Will Paul be back as Superman?” Cu-reepy.

I actually found a video with the last four examples included (as well as some others I have and have not mentioned). You can hear “Yes he’s dead” at the 1:20 mark and “We loved you yeah, yeah, yeah” at 1:29.  The others are pretty clear-cut. Here’s a link to said video. It also includes the “Walrus was Paul” line from Glass Onion. The walrus was apparently the symbol of death in Scandanavian culture, and Paul was dressed as one on the “Magical Mystery Tour” album cover. Good stuff.

There are other weird lyrics, like in “Come Together” when John sings “One and one and one is three” which could be the lads trying to tell us there were only three Beatles left. No way, right? But still . . .

There are also several clues located on album covers, in album sleeves and elsewhere. I’ll begin with the most famous . . .

Abbey Road Album Cover 

Everybody knows this one, right?


Here’s the way this one was interpreted. You see, from left to right we have George dressed as a gravedigger, Paul as the corpse (left-handed Paul is holding the cigarette in his right hand and he’s also out of step with the other three), Ringo as the undertaker and John as the preacher, ambulance driver or heavenly figure according to what you read.

And on the back of the Abbey Road album we have this:


Check out those dots before the word BEATLES. If you connect them can you make a 3? As in 3 BEATLES? Some people can. In addition, some can see a skull in the shadows to the right of BEATLES. A stretch? You be the judge.

Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band Album Cover


Well, the first clue is pretty obvious, since there’s a grave on the cover. But check out that guitar made of flowers. Is it possible they spell out PAUL?, including the question mark? Can you see it? Oh, and did I mention that’s a left-handed guitar and Paul was left-handed?

There’s also a photo of the boys on the inside fold-out. Paul has a patch on his sleeve that apparently has the letters OPD on it. Let’s see . . . Officially Pronounced Dead? Sure.


On the back cover there was a photo of the band and only one member has his back turned. Yep, you guessed it. Here’s a close-up:


You can’t see the lyrics George is pointing to, but they say, “Wednesday morning at 5:00 as the day begins.” Since Paul supposedly left an all-night recording session in an angry state, could this be referring to the time he was killed?

One more thing regarding the Pepper’s album I must mention. On the cover there is a hand above Paul’s head. This, according to the experts, is a European symbol of evil and/or death. Here’s a closeup:


There are several examples of this hand over Paul’s head on the Magical Mystery Tour album as well.

Magical Mystery Tour Album

There was a booklet contained in the album, and it included this picture:

Yep, Paul has a black rose, everybody else has a red rose (the pic is enlarged in the corner for your benefit – again, top-notch blogging). The black rose, obviously, is a symbol of death. Why the hell did it take a phone call to a radio station to get people to see these clues? Geez.

Here’s another photo from the booklet:


Sure enough, there’s Paul with a sign saying, “I was” on it. Can’t get much clearer than that.

As I said, these are just a few of my favorite clues. The list goes on and on . . .

There are tons of websites dedicated to the rumor that Paul McCartney died back in the 60’s. If you don’t believe me just Google “Paul is Dead” and see what happens. Insanity.

To reiterate, we all know that Paul is indeed alive. Still, it’s pretty clear to me that The Beatles were having some fun with us. There’s just way too many clues to be coincidental.

But it’s 2015, and Paul still isn’t dead.

Rock music creativity, though? Yeah, definitely on life-support.

From The Oklahoman:

An Oklahoma man has pleaded guilty to manslaughter for killing his stepfather with an “atomic wedgie,” pulling the man’s own underwear over his head and causing him to suffocate. At a hearing Wednesday, he told the judge: “Things got out of hand.”

On Monday, Brad Lee Davis, 34, pleaded guilty to first-degree manslaughter ahead of a jury trial set for next week.

Gee, ya think Brad? Yep, I’d say things got a little “out of hand.”

Seriously, I’ve heard of some bad ways to go but by God this has to be the worst. Just passing out with your Fruit of the Looms stretched over your head, never to wake up again.

And imagine you’re a relative of the dead guy . . .

“So I heard your Uncle Mort died.”


“How did he go?”

“The coroner’s official ruling was ‘Death by Atomic Wedgie.’ Brad Lee Davis pulled his whitey tighties clean up over his head. The last thing he saw were the words ‘75% cotton, 25% polyester, Made in Costa Rica.'”

Death by Atomic Wedgie. You can’t make this stuff up, kids.

PS: I swear to God I went in to check the tags on my underwear to see what was written on them. That’s blogging integrity right there, folks. You’re welcome. 


These are the deaths most shocking to me, by the way. And no, this list does not include Elvis, MJ, Janis Joplin or Kurt Cobain. For various reasons those didn’t shock me, though I know not why. I mean, Elvis was so bloated at the time, and Michael, Kurt and Janis were such fragile, tortured souls I wasn’t really surprised when they went to Rock ‘n’ Roll Heaven. Without further blathering, let’s get to it . . .


No music artist’s death has ever, or will ever, be as sudden and shocking as that of John Lennon. You think Michael Jackson’s death was shocking? It never came close to the blow that hit my friends and I that awful Monday Night in 1980.

After stalking John Lennon for a couple of months a complete nutjob/jackass named Mark David Chapman ran into Lennon outside his New York City home and got him to autograph his copy of Double Fantasy, Lennon’s latest album that we’d waited 5-years for. A few hours later Chapman, who remained outside Lennon’s apartment while he was out and was packing a .38 revolver, shot the former Beatle four times in the back, killing him almost instantly.

Interesting fact: Years prior to Lennon’s death, he was asked if he knew how he’d die and he replied, “I’ll probably be popped off by some loony.

Seriously, one of the worst days of my life.


Jim Morrison, lead singer of The Doors, did a boatload of drugs. Especially the psychedelic ones that fueled the creative part of his mind. He also liked the hard stuff, like cocaine and heroin, but wasn’t very good a telling them apart. One day, according to his girlfriend Pamela Courson, he snorted a bunch of cocaine and went off to take a bath. Only thing is, the coke wasn’t coke, it was heroin. Thus, he overdosed and ended up dying, possibly due to hemorrhaging in his lungs. Bad way to go, man. He died in Paris and no autopsy was performed, so his death remains controversial to this day. Hell, some people think he staged his own death and is still alive.

I was only 11 when it happened but I did have Doors albums at the time and I was just flabbergasted.


Listening and watching Jimi Hendrix play guitar was like looking at an alien, everything about him and the way he played was simply mesmerizing. He was influenced by the blues and was an innovator on his instrument, implementing feedback and experimenting with sound effects. Jimi’s drug of choice wasn’t the usual hard stuff. He pretty much just liked to smoke pot and drink, and then later on he got into acid. Since his vices weren’t exactly the life-threatening types, it made his death a big surprise to his friends.

What allegedly happened was that he took a bunch of sleeping pills, drank a bottle of red wine, and drowned in his own vomit. But, nobody really knows for sure. A former roadie for the guitar god recently wrote a book that explains how Hendrix’ manager at the time, Mike Jeffery, had stuffed a bottle of pills down Jimi’s mouth while he was passed out so he could collect some insurance money, and also because he feared Hendrix was going to fire him. Jeffery was killed in a plane crash just two years later, so maybe karma was doing her thing per usual. In any event, he went way too early.


L to R: Big Bopper, Buddy Holly and Ritchie Valens

I know, I know, that’s 3-people but they all died together so I put them in as a group. So kill me. Oops. Bad use of words there. Sorry.

Anyway, as if having to play 24 cities in the midwest in just 21 days wasn’t enough, concert promoters somehow found room to schedule a 25th stop on “The Winter Dance Party” tour featuring Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens and J.P. Richardson, aka “The Big Bopper.” Naturally, this scheduling left little time for the guys to do the basic stuff like laundry, and Holly had just about had it with riding on a cold tour bus in the winter, as the heater on the bus broke pretty much about 30-seconds into the tour. So, he told his band to go find him a plane after the show because he wanted to fly to the next stop so he’d have time to wash some socks. Not even kidding.

And get this – Waylon Jennings, a member of Holly’s band at the time – and scheduled to go on the plane, gave up his seat to Richardson, who had come down with the flu and wanted to get to the next stop in time for some well needed rest. Valens, who had never flown before, asked Tommy Allsup (another member of Holly’s band) for his seat. Allsup offered to flip a coin for it and, sadly, Valens won the toss.

Fun but true fact: Holly poked fun of Jennings when he found out he’d given up his seat, and said “Well, I hope your ol’ bus freezes up“; to which Jennings regretfully replied, “Well, I hope your ol’ plane crashes.” I bet ol’ Waylon would like to have that one back, because 5-minutes after the plane took off, it crashed, killing all on board instantly.

Don McLean later wrote the classic song “American Pie” about that fateful day. In it, he calls it “the day the music died.”


Rock’s Best Mustache. Ever.

Man, I loved Jim Croce. Just the ultimate balladeer.

He had songs like like “You Don’t Mess Around With Jim”, “Operator”, “Time in a Bottle”, and “Bad, Bad Leroy Brown” among others.

Jim had released a couple of hits in the early 70’s and was about to break it huge when, about a week after putting the finishing touches on his second album, he played a concert in Louisiana. After the show, he and his crew hopped on a plane headed to his next stop in Texas, but the plane crashed, killing everyone on board. After his death, the album was released and Croce became huge, cementing his legend.

Note: Look up there. Dude has the best mustache ever.


Led Zeppelin drummer John Bonham liked vodka. A lot. In fact, they say on the morning of his death he had 12 shots of it with his breakfast. Yowza. But since it was only morning, he had plenty of daylight left to keep drinking before band rehearsals for their upcoming tour. He basically kept drinking and drinking all day long. His manager put Bonham in bed after he passed out, and he was even nice enough to put him on his side, but it wasn’t much help. He died from pulmonary edema, which is basically breathing in your own vomit, which isn’t very rich in oxygen. Rough way to go, man.

Moral of the story? Don’t drink enough vodka to sterilize the city of Poughkeepsie, NY.


Randy Rhoads was basically the Beethoven of heavy metal guitarists. He got his start in Quiet Riot in the late 70’s, then hooked up with Ozzy Osbourne at the time the “Prince of Darkness” was embarking on his solo career. His ungodly chops can be heard on Ozzy’s first two albums.

In 1982, after playing a gig in Knoxville, Tennessee, the band was on the road on their way to Orlando, Florida. They were driving but stopped at a small airstrip where the tour bus driver owned a plane and he gave some of the band and crew members rides in his plane.

Randy hated flying and reportedly said “there’s no freaking way I’m getting on that plane” but somehow he was convinced to go for a quick ride. Once airborne he must have relaxed a bit as the pilot had a little fun by playing “buzz the tower” with the the tour bus, where the rest of the band and crew were taking a quick nap.

At that point the pilot decided to startle the crew on the bus for a third time. Only thing is, after two successful passes, he flew too low and clipped a wing on the back of the bus, sending the plane hurtling into a building where it burst into flames. Rhoads, the pilot, and a third passenger all had to be identified by their dental records. Shocking death for the music world, and a helluva way to go. You know, with the whole ball of fire thing.


Dennis Wilson may be the only drunk diving fatality the rock world has ever seen. The Beach Boys drummer’s wild life included five marriages to four different women, a run-in with Charles Manson, and a serious addiction to alcohol. Still, he liked to relax and chill out on his yacht at Marina Del Rey.

He drowned on Dec. 28, 1983 while diving from his yacht after drinking all day. Wilson was reportedly trying to recover some items he had thrown overboard three years earlier that had belonged to Fleetwood Mac’s Christine McVie, who he’d been in love with at the time.

Weird fact: Guess who took over drums for The Beach Boys on a lot of their shows after Dennis died? John Stamos of TV’s “Full House.” Weird, man.

Fun Fact #2: Dennis was the only Beach Boy who could actually surf.


Terry Kath was a founding member and lead guitarist of Chicago, and if you want to know how good he was listen to his playing on “25 or 6 to 4.” Ungodly good. He was also a singer and multi-instrumentalist who played banjo, accordion, bass and drums. He sang lead on such great Chicago songs like  “Colour My World”,  “Make Me Smile” and “Little One.”

Kath also had a history of drug and alcohol problems. He died at a party at a crew member’s house on Jan. 23, 1978, after picking up an unloaded .38 revolver and putting it to his head, pulling the trigger. Nothing happened. Still goofing off, Kath then did the same thing with a 9-mm semiautomatic pistol. He even showed a friend the empty magazine before he pulled the trigger. Unfortunately, there was a bullet in the chamber. He died instantly. Trust me when I say Chicago was never the same again.

So there ye be. Like I said, I left out some big names but these were the deaths that affected me the most. Plus it’s my website, so to hell with y’all.

Anywho, hope I didn’t depress you too much. Have a great day.

Mock me. I dare ya.

ORANGE, Texas (July 4, 2015) — A man who apparently mocked alligators, then jumped in the water — despite warning signs — is dead after being attacked in Texas.

Orange County Police were called to Burkart’s Marina near the Louisiana state line early Friday morning after reports that Tommie Woodward, 28, and an unidentified woman were swimming in a bayou and had been attacked by a large alligator.

Orange County Justice of the Peace Rodney Price told CNN affiliate KFDM that Woodward ignored verbal warnings and a posted “No Swimming Alligators” sign and seemed to mock the deadly creatures before going in the water.

“He removed his shirt, removed his billfold … someone shouted a warning and he said ‘f**k the alligators’ and jumped in to the water and almost immediately yelled for help,” Price said.

“Please do not go swimming, there’s a bigger alligator out here. Just please stay out of the water,” witness and marina employee Michelle Wright said she told Woodward.

In an emotional interview with KFDM, Wright said, “I saw his body floating face down. And then he’s out there for a couple of seconds and then he’s dragged back down. And then he comes back up still face down and then he gets pulled down again. And then he just disappears.”

Listen, if I’ve said it once I’ve said it a million times. Never mock an alligator. You can laugh at them, tease them, even be rude to them. But never, ever mock them. They hate that, man. And f**k the alligators, huh? What say you now Tommie Woodward? Oh, that’s right. Nothing. Because you’re dead.

Note: Damn, that was cold-hearted. Even for me.