How Chicago’s Peter Cetera once ruined a relationship. Mine.

Posted: February 6, 2016 in Life, Men and Women, WTF?
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I’ve had several random encounters and run-ins with rock stars over the years, and most have been documented on this site at one time or another. Just type in “random encounters” in the search box and several blogs will pop up. Mike Love of the Beach Boys got down on one knee and sang to a girl I was with once, and afterwards sent a roadie down to ask if she wanted to meet him after the show. That particular girl laughed it off, but on another occasion it never went down that way. Here’s the story . . .

It was the late 70’s and a bunch of us went down to The Natti to catch a Chicago concert. This was back when Chicago was cool, still using horns in their songs, long before they went all schlocky and sappy with the lame ballads. Sure, they did slow stuff like “Color My World” before, but unfortunately Peter Cetera sort of took over with tunes like “You’re the Inspiration” and “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” and it all went downhill from there. It would have never happened had guitarist Terry Kath knew that gun was loaded when he put it upside his head, but that’s neither here nor there. Well, maybe to Terry.

But I digress. And maybe there’s another reason I don’t like Peter Cetera.

Back to the concert. This was before those 11-people got crushed to death at The Who concert, so it was still General Admission at the gate. Trust me, when it was General Admission I always ended up right down front, and that’s where this all started.

The show was great, Robert Lamm and Cetera and the boys were rockin’, and my date and I were having a good time. Keep in mind I’d been dating this girl for about 2-years, which will become relevant shortly. Anyway, after a couple of the obligatory encores the lights came up and we’re sort of standing there talking to friends, waiting for the crowd to thin. At that point some guy comes walking up to my girlfriend and asks to speak with her. Hell, I thought something had happened, an emergency or something, and he had been sent to find her. He sort of took her elbow and walked her a few feet away to have a private conversation. She listened intently and nodded her head a couple times, the guy did the same, then she turned and walked back over to me.

The guy stayed where he was. I was getting a bad vibe.

What followed was a conversation that basically ended a relationship.

Me: “What was that about? Is everything OK?”

Her: “Yes, it’s . . . fine.

Me, senses on high alert: “So. . . what’s up?

Her: “W-e-l-l . . . that guy told me that Peter Cetera wanted to ask if I’d like to come out to his bus.

Damn Cetera. Lotta nerve, huh? But my girlfriend was just looking at me.

Me: “Uh, you know what he wants, right?”

Her: “Yes.”

Next came the words that are etched in my mind to this day.

Her: “What should I do?”

Wait. What? What should I do? What should I do?

Me, after about 15-seconds of stunned silence: “What should you do? Well, do what you want, but Mr. Cetera better be ready to give you a ride back to Chillicothe because if you get on that bus I’m not waiting on you.”

At this point she actually thought about it for a minute and discussed it with her friends. Then, she decided she’d stick with me. Boy, did I feel special. Did I mention we’d been dating for 2-years?

Turns out she probably should have gone to the bus. And stayed there.

As you can imagine, we had the “How could you have even considered going off with Peter Cetera like that? How?” conversation about 173 times over the next couple of weeks, and naturally she had no reasonable answer. What was she supposed to say, “Well, I thought it would be nice to boink a rock star?” After that it was all downhill. I couldn’t get past it.

Yes my friends, fame and money are a powerful attractions indeed.

Then again, could I resist if Kate Beckinsale saw me somewhere and sent an assistant over with an invitation to board her bus? No freaking way. Probably not.

Wait. So I would do the same thing I was mad at my girlfriend for considering? Something’s wrong here.

Maybe it’s a double standard?

Maybe I should have just laughed it off?

Maybe I made a mistake?

Maybe I overreacted?

Crap, the more I think about it now the more I think I’m guilty of all of the above and was being a jackass. Or maybe I wasn’t? The mind reels. I’m so confused.

So I come out of this little self-therapy session realizing three things. The first is that I’ll never fully understand the whole dynamic between men and women. The second is that I still hold a grudge against Peter Cetera. The third? I really need to let this go.


  1. yourothermotherhere says:

    The fact that she thought about it, discussed it with her friends, and even asked you about, then ended up with you, well, in women’s world, that was a high honor.

  2. Bobby Do says:

    Nice Terry Kath reference (except he didn’t play bass, Cetera did from Day 1) that I’m sure not many got.

    I suppose there was never a thought of you GOING WITH Miss “Nice Hair Peter Wants to Meet You”, was there? Saying hi to the boys (James, Walt, Leo, Bobby, etc.) while you waited? Now we’re talking awkward AND a great story. Play that one out…..

  3. You should have just insisted that you should come along. That would have been more entertaining. 😉

  4. Not to belabor the point, I find this story funny and sad, but I have to ask, are you totally sure that was a legit request and that the guy wasn’t just some sneaky creeper trying to take advantage of a girl? I’d be immediately suspicious if some guy came up to me and wanted me to go to some rock star’s “bus”. Incidentally, you have drummer Danny Seraphine to blame for kind of taking the reigns and bringing David Foster on board to produce the 80’s ballads. 🙂

    • Shoe says:

      Yeah, I know the whole Seraphine/Foster connection basically hijacked the Chicago sound. I rank it right up there with Michael McDonald and his negative (at least to me) effect on the Doobies. As for the guy in question, if he wasn’t with the band he’d stolen one of those cool jackets the rest of the roadies were wearing as they broke down the stage. LOL.

  5. D. Enriquez says:

    OMG . . . . Are you for real ?? That’s actually a pretty amusing story . . . lmao . . .

    I am a 53 year old woman & went to my share of Chicago concerts back in the day . . . . & let me tell you . . . MOST women (especially back then) would have (excuse the expression, but) Jumped Peter Cetera’s Bone(s) in a split of a heart-beat . .. Without even having to think about it, let alone; ask What should I do . .. . Myself included !!

    I have been in Love with that man for 45 years & counting !!

    Shit; you were only this girl’s BOYFRIEND . . . . Hell, I would have told my HUSBAND something along the lines of this . .. . “Catch up with you later honey . . . No need to wait up; I’ll be getting my own RIDE” !! 😛 hehehe

    Sorry dude, but that lil’ blonde cutie Peter Cetera will ALWAYS be THE MAN !!

    Maybe if you would have been dating a DEAF & BLIND woman at the time; you wouldn’t be feeling so Scorned (by Peter’s Hotness) to this day . . . . Again . . . 😀 lmfao !! jus’ sayin’. 😛 😉

    • Shoe says:

      LOL. Thanks for the insight! But if you read my entire blog you’d see that I realized the error of my ways. Thanks for reading!

    • Lana says:

      Yes, I couldn’t agree with you more! I would leave ANY man for Peter Cetera!!!!

      • dene13 says:

        Yep, Lana . . . Thanks 4 Agreeing . . . ‘WE’ Got That Right !! 😉
        & Even To This Day . . . Pete’s STILL Mighty Fine …. Even at 70 yrs (Young) !! 😉

        😛 Just Sayin’ 😛

  6. D. Enriquez says:

    I’m sorry, hun. I guess I must have been blinded by the pretty pic of Peter you have posted above. LoL . . . . 😛

    Besides, honestly; if I had been in your shoes at the time . .. I probably would have felt and/or done the same as you did. 😉

    Take care. 🙂

  7. after so many years you are still venting about this? If you were such a great boyfriend, why would she have even considered it? Sounds like it was a match made in heaven. You ruined that relationship all on your own. Peter Cetera had nothing to do with it.

    • Shoe says:

      It’s humor, Mindy. I’m not venting. Thanks for your concern though. And you’re right, I was a bad boyfriend. But wait. You seem to know a lot about me . . .Tania, is that you? Why, oh why did you consider going on Peter Cetera’s bus? LOL.

  8. Lana says:

    Really dude, let it go. If Peter asked me back to his bus I would go in a heartbeat.

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  10. lily says:

    Forgive them let it go. Is it fair to whoever your with now to be fondling these sucky memories?

    • Shoe says:

      Lily, the story was not meant to be taken quite so literally. And the person I’m currently with thinks it a funny story. Thanks for reading!

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  12. Terry Suarez says:

    Ok, let’s get real here people. Peter Cetera, mind you, is just a guy, good looking but just an ordinary guy. So ladies, you would jump his bones? You don’t know this guy and I’m sorry ,who else he’s jumped and what you will catch. and BTW I am a woman, have loved Chicago before the 80’s and Cetera’s music is fine for bedroom music and he may have been good looking and at his age now, 71, except put on some weight, still looks good for his age, but still, what is the risk of catching HIV or God knows what else.

  13. Fern says:

    I hope your GF was 18 and still a teenaged nit wit. We all know the human brain is STILL developing until age 26 now. Secondly, Peter Cetera RUINED Chicago. Was he in the band from the beginning??? How did they go from all the cool songs they had (even color my world) to all Cetera’s granny tunes?! I was only 14 when the one with the lyrics “it’s hard for me to say I’m sorry” came out and even then i was like, barf!

    • Shoe says:

      Fern, I couldn’t agree more! Cetera was an original member but his sappy love songs did indeed soften the band’s sound. After Terry Kath’s death things really seemed to go downhill for a lot of us.

      • Leslie says:

        I too remember when that song came out..I hated it; mushy boyfriend would always crank up radio to hard to say I’m sorry and Id just cringe!… barely even recognized original Chicago band. Think Questions 67 &68!! Foster ruined it.. so did Peter’s hunger for fame.Shoe you’re so right, Chicago’s not th same since Terry’s passing. BUT as far as jumping on Peter’s bones.. wouldn’t HESITATE! Always lusted for him! Would still boink that LOL!!

  14. I’m not sure how this ruined your relationship. I feel she would have gone with any guy if the right opportunity arose for her. If she had thoughts of going to his bus, then this wasn’t a light bulb that popped up over her head. I’m sure there were signs in your relationship you choose to ignore until one was standing right in front of you.

    You can’t blame Cetra situation for the downhill of your relationship. Red flags were there all along, he just pushed it over the edge.

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